“Avoid fraternizing with people who don’t share your values. Prolonged association with those with false ideas can only tarnish your thinking.”
Recent research from Friedrich Schiller University in Germany shows just how serious toxic people are. They found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions—the same kind of exposure you get when dealing with toxic people—caused subjects’ brains to have a massive stress response. Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs. Miserable people think they are always the best, they have the notion that they’ll get everything they want.
Being able to spot their harmful behavior is the first step to minimizing their impact on you. You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with what you learned from them.
Traits of toxic people:
A. They are never wrong.
B. They know how to detect your weaknesses, they use your weaknesses against you.
C. They often lie.
D. They exhibit controlling behaviors.
E. They are drama magnet.
F. They talk more than they listen.
G. They love to talk about other people.
Weigh the outcome of addressing the issue. Anyone with the power to cause you emotional harm can make your life somewhat difficult. You may want to talk with friends first or get some reality-checks.
Our initial encounter and perception of someone strongly colors our developing relationship with them. If we understood from the beginning that a person is not who they seem to be, and is just hiding behind a facade of what appears to be socially acceptable behavior, then perhaps we would be more wary of getting involved with them. You deserve to have wonderful, supportive and loving people in your life. In fact, life is too short to spend time with people who don’t help you be your best self.