The reality is we all want connection, but if we choose someone we know is not right for us and are too afraid to have that tough conversation, this end-of-year period is when it comes back to bite us. Breakups are not always a bad thing because you might be in a relationship that isn’t healthy or isn’t right for you. Relationships are based on love, and when it comes down to it, love is something that is communicated among people. Information, such as one’s needs, concerns, and frustrations, is transmitted through people, mostly through verbal communication. This includes the successful conveying or sharing of ideas, feelings, expectations, too, among people in relationships.
According to clinical professional counselor Julienne Derichs, “You are in a dead-end relationship if your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t want to work through conflicts with you and blames you for the all problems in your relationship.” No relationship will prosper if one person is willing to set aside pride and ego.
It doesn’t feel right
Sometimes it’s simply a case of listening to your instincts. If your partner no longer feels like the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with, they’re probably not.
“If your partner doesn’t feel like ‘the one’, something may be up. You struggle to feel more in love and closer and just can’t seem to get there,” are examples offered by relationship therapist Rhonda Milrad.
Society conditions us to use the voice of reason but gut feeling is more powerful than most of us think, and it’s important not to ignore it.
Your family disapproved the relationship
Our family is a big factor in forming a lasting relationship with partner. Once the family disapproved the relationship especially your mother, its a signal that you have to reconsider. Lets admit it, when we are so called in love we tend to see only all the good aspect of relationship to the point even if the partner becomes abusive verbally.
You’ve broken up and gotten back together more than once.
It might seem like a no-brainier, but when you have history with someone, it can be hard to let go. The thing is, there’s usually a pretty good reason why you keep breaking up. Maybe you’re just not ready for a relationship, or maybe you need some serious time apart to figure out what you want. But if you’re hoping he’ll change, keep in the mind that if you always take him back and forgive him, he won’t change.
The negative personality traits have gotten worse.
Everyone brings flaws and not-so-nice parts of themselves to a relationship. When those flaws start taking over, though, it’s a pretty big sign that you’re heading into bad territory, says Schwartz. Think: They’ve always been a little jealous, now they’re overbearing. They’ve always been a little irritable, now they’re just mean. They’ve always been private, now they refuse to open up at all. “Very often it’s not a slump, it’s the beginning of the end,” says Schwartz.
Your partner makes big changes to his daily routine.
One of the most obvious signs of a troubled relationship is when your partner has rearranged his entire schedule in order to spend less time with you. Now, sometimes a promotion at work, for instance, might be to blame but if you find that he’s consistently “stuck at the office” until the wee hours of the morning, there might be something else going on.